Deconstructing Men in 2017.

The Current State

It’s 2017, and men do not look like they used to. There is no strength, there is no honor, and there is a complete lack of style and substance. Don’t get me wrong, I don’t believe it has completely gone away, but it has become an endangered species, the Real Man. It wasn’t a quick and noticeable decline either, rather, it was slow and innocuous. Single motherhood, the fight against merit-based systems, and various forms of affirmative action have removed any reason for men to improve themselves. The meta now is to fit oneself into an under-represented group and use that to an advantage.

The Good Ole Days

People look back wistfully at the 1950s, wishing they could they could go back to a time when things seemed safer, when whole families were the norm, when people dressed up just to go out to the store, and when decency was in fashion. Never do I hear, “I sure wish we could go back to the time when black people were second class citizens”, or “I sure would like to be able to beat my wife without anyone saying anything about it”. These were not the values of the 1950s, as much as the left would have you believe they were. A man who sexually assaulted a woman was as much a scumbag then as he would be now. Then, however, he would be attacked. Now, the entire gender is attacked. Collectivist ideals have taken precedence over individual actions.

Identity Politics As A Norm

Never before has a person’s identity being so determined by what he is born as. LeBron James is a legendary basketball player. He is an ingenious tactician, with the energy of a hundred normal men. He is a father, and an example to all young boys as to what a man can be. To the left, however, he is merely a black man, a tool to further a collectivist cause. The left, who calls everyone else out as racist for any transgression, real or implied, is oddly interested in black men only being black men. It’s the same with white and hispanic men as well. Some groups even suggest that everyone is born gay and genderless, and that society forces people into their gender roles. These groups used to be outliers, ignored or outright quashed by force. The internet, and subsequent immersion in echo chambers has emboldened and enlarged these groups. Their implied relevance causes uninvolved people to ally with them, “cause-jacking” to gain the benefits of a group without being a member.

That’s not what this article is about, though. These points are made to provide insight into the leftist mindset for clarity. Leftists believe strongly in identity. They are strongly against merit-based reward systems. A simple google search reveals countless arguments against “meritocracy”, and those same authors, with very little effort, can be found talking trash about “cisgendered white men”, and how “black people are magic”, while they themselves are likely part of the group they are decrying.

The Point

Modern men, in an effort to appeal to groups they have no place in, diminish themselves. Effort that could be spent on improvement of self and community is instead used to pander and placate and become more like a given group. This goes beyond mere action. Their bodies change, becoming less masculine and more feminine. The lack of testosterone affects the way they think and speak. Every male that works for BuzzFeed recently took a testosterone test together. The conclusion was predictable.

Males raised by single mothers are statistically less likely to succeed in any merit-based capacity, multiple studies show. That is because a man feminized is not a man.

Justin Trudeau, Canadian Prime Minister and outspoken feminist, recently shamed his sons publicly in a personal piece he wrote for Marie Claire magazine, while also making it clear that he feels male society has it out for his daughter.

I am so exceptionally proud of my daughter Ella-Grace. I love Ella, and I worry–because as a father, son, husband, and citizen, I witness the unequal obstacles women and girls face every day. It’s 2017, yet in Canada and around the world, women and girls still face violence, discrimination, stereotypes that limit them, and unequal opportunities … It is maddening to me that my brilliant, compassionate daughter will grow up in a word where, despite everything she is as a person, there will still be people who won’t take her voice seriously, who will write her off–simply because of her gender.

All of us benefit when women and girls have the same opportunities as men and boys–and it’s on all of us to make that a reality. Our sons have the power and responsibility to change our culture of sexism, and I want Xavier and Hadrien–when he’s a little older–to understand that deeply. I want my sons to escape the pressure to be a particular kind of masculine that is so damaging to men and to the people around them. I want them to be comfortable being feminists.

This pseudo man, a leader of an entire country, is willing to sell his own family out to pander to identity politics. Women already have the same opportunities as men. Lazy people, however, don’t have the same opportunities as hard-working people, and that’s why those who follow identity politics hate meritocracy. Any group that is helped by affirmative action, whether it be based on race or gender, is relying on their identity, and not their work, to keep them gainfully employed.

Men need Work

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No man does well when there is not a real adversary to fight. Whether that be a bear in the woods, or imminent starvation, or a project at work, a man needs to overcome adversity to remain stable. Modern men, with their Quixotal(see: windmills) adversaries never achieve true victory and rightly so, are not well. Every puff piece written by a male in HuffPo, New York Post, BuzzFeed and Vox, as well as many other publications, are rife with imagined monsters and insane rambling.

A lack of sunlight and exertion has rendered these house cats neutered.

These piteous males often find themselves in open relationships, the caveat being that it’s only open for the woman. They raise the children of other men, conceived during their own marriage, and count themselves as lucky to get to be in the presence of such a “strong independent woman”. To call a woman “yours” is considered a taboo and will have you labeled a misogynist.

The Solution?

Raise your children, both boys and girls, without an ideology. Ensure that they know how to think critically and can separate fact from fiction. Teach them useful skills. Seeing racism in milk or misogyny in clothing is not a skill. changing parts on a car or balancing a checkbook is a skill. This author’s daughter has been able to change brakes on a car since she was three. She is the least likely candidate for feminism or identity politics.

Children raised without a father are the most at risk. Be a father to your boys, men, and if you’re a woman, get a father for your boys. Independent women create weak men.

Lastly, let boys be boys. Trying to force them to avoid their own gender markers ensures that they will end up weak, duplicitous, and unfit to raise the next generation of children.

Yet More Dangers in Obfuscation

With the meanings of words changing, and some words being given more power while others are given less, it comes as no surprise that a popular magazine would release an article that appears to attempt to normalize incest. 

This article go so far as to change the meaning of incest, however, softening it into genetic sexual attraction. This has been going on for decades, and has even been lampooned in a popular George Carlin rant. Adding softer language to something does not change what it is. Instead, it serves as a line of division with which someone can call themselves proper and another person improper. 

Beyond that, it blurs the lines yet again of hate speech. When will come, the first instance in which someone calls it incest, and another person gets offended because they were merely engaging in genetic sexual attraction?

The term “slippery slope” gets thrown around a lot, but in this case it is clear that we are on one.

Don’t fall.

Be Your Own Advocate

In today’s increasingly selfish and desolate society, it is important to know that there is one person who will always stand up for you:

You.

The Current Meta

Advocacy and allyship groups continue to become more fractured, not being satisfied with their problem being part of a whole host of problems being solved. Instead, their very specific and often undefinable problem must be first in line. The LGBT movement alone has become a warzone in which transgender people now call gay people oppressive. Straight black men are considered the white people of black people. There are even transgender groups that call other transgender people transphobic. It’s mind boggling just how ready people are to be at the throats of people they once allied with or held close.

Even unions, the time-honored vanguard against morally corrupt corporations and small-time bosses who would feed on their workers have become a veritable mafia; using thuggish intimidation tactics and harassment to ensure that equity, not equality, is enforced. Anyone who doesn’t want to be part of the club is going to have a very hard time at their job. The Union wants its dues.

Even party politics has become a mine field. With no side currently being decent, the people who are decent have no home.

Who Can You Turn To?

You’ve made it this far, haven’t you? Despite all of the things that have happened in your life, including the things you were sure you’d never make it out of alive, here you are. Maybe you ought to listen to yourself.

Even if family, friends, and other people wish you success in your endeavors, it is ultimately up to you to push yourself to the finish line. No one can do it for you. The good part of that is, once you’re determined, no one can stop you, either.

 

Why So Negative?

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It’s strange in this modern day that people take such pride in the negative things about humanity. There is that quote that people often attribute to Marilyn Monroe that goes “if you can’t handle me at my worst, you don’t deserve me at my best”. I understand, as do many people, the intention behind it. It’s trying to make it clear that people, as a whole, are flawed. The thing is, it’s unlikely that there has ever been a time when people didn’t know that. Everybody knows that every person that they encounter has their own set of problems, difficulties, and things that make them less than perfectly appealing to be around.

“I’m a bitch and I know it”

The problem that has become apparent,however, is that far too many people use that quote and others as an excuse to be lazy about their interactions with people, or to be less pleasant. Most people that are encountered on a daily basis are decent people. They’re willing to have a conversation with a complete stranger, and don’t at all put up a front that suggests that they might have misanthropic tendencies. There are, however, a very few people however, who believe it is their duty to show the world and everyone in it just how crazy or angry they are. They hold it close to their heart as part of their identity. They go so far as to tattoo it on their body. They take any opportunity they can to tell you how “Loco” they are. Facebook would suggest that these people are the majority. Reality makes it clear that this is simply not the case.

I Miss Mayberry

It used to be that people put on their best face when they left the house. No matter what was going on in their home, they wanted everyone to believe that everything was going perfectly. The term “fake it till you make it” seems to apply pretty well here. The glut of TV shows and other media that suggest that every family is a dysfunctional band of misanthropes that has become popular in the past decade or so is disheartening. The Cosby Show was a wholesome program that did not center on race, people’s various mental problems, or disgusting things that people do. Instead it focused on creating good habits and following good patterns. There was even an episode in which Cliff taught Rudy how to mop the floor. Real, actual parenting happened right on the screen in front of all of America.

Full House was another of these shows. Bad things would happen, and instead of succumbing to the difficulties found, the characters would find ways to overcome. Oddly enough, the show featured a family that was far from normal as well, yet they were not portrayed as dysfunctional.

With the advent of Netflix, the show Fuller House has shown that this sort of wholesome programming is not only still acceptable, but popular.

Why, then, do we focus on the negative so readily?

A popular argument that has been bandied about for years is that we crave things that make us feel better about our own selves without having to actually do anything. This is why people still have losers from high school as friends on Facebook, even though they wouldn’t be caught dead associating with them in real life. It’s also why reality TV is such a big deal: we love to watch awful people be awful to each other so that by comparison our somewhat dysfunctional normalcy looks like an example.

That’s great for most people, but what about the ones who actually do go around being awful in real life?

Short answer: some people are just naturally assholes.

The long answer is a little more entangled. Due to Asperger’s, high functioning autism, or simply having had a bad upbringing with useless parents, some people just don’t know how to function normally within society. The problem comes when an Internet and a media full of people like that try to make it look normal, and suggest that it’s actually normal people who are abnormal.

Suddenly, treating people like human beings instead of treating them like statistics is frowned upon. This point will be expanded upon in a future article.

So, what’s the takeaway? I’ve got shit to do.

In short, normalcy is being attacked, as is decency, because those who are incapable or simply too lazy to do it are trying to make their version of normal into everybody’s. It’s just like the Healthy At Every Size movement. They simply can’t or won’t take the effort, and so try to normalize it while stigmatizing anything else.

Oddly enough, they take a lot of effort in doing so.

 

Perpetual Adolescence

Something strange to notice these days, is how much time young adults spend trying to remain in their adolescence. A record number of young adults or choosing to remain living at home with their parents, or living with roommates into their thirties. While some of these people have good jobs and contribute at home; not their home, but their parents home, many of them eke out an existence working at a Starbucks or similar coffee shop, or in a music store. They tend to have useless degrees as well, such as sociology, associates level psychology, or the dreaded gender studies. These are expensive courses that put people in terrible that while not preparing them financially to pay that debt back.

These are the people you see protesting all the time. They join groups like Antifa and travel around the country, unwashed and angry. They’ve got the time for it, because they’re not working an actual job. They tend to be very aggressive toward those that promote the STEM fields in school, and try to surround themselves with people much younger than them, more impressionable. 

Psychologist and cultural critic Jordan Peterson calls this a Peter Pan existence. This title makes sense. Peter didn’t want to grow up, and despised anyone who did. Captain Hook was the specter of adulthood, with the crocodile constantly chasing him, ticking, ticking, constantly ticking. A literal form of mortality. Time had already gotten a taste for him, and wanted the remainder.

Isn’t that just how it is though? We spend every day heading toward the end, inevitable and inexorable. We don’t get a choice in it, and yet, among the generation known as millennials, there is an idea that you can remain young until you suddenly wither and die. 

These are people for whom, when they reach their thirties and finally have to open themselves up to reality, things are going to be much harder because of the years they have wasted thinking that they are the ones that know better. These are people who are going to be bitter, angry, frustrated that their reward for trying to change the course of the country will be laboring until their final day.

Those of you who are reading this and have escaped that fate, good for you. Those of you who are reading this, however, and are still paying money into a course that’s only going to teach you how to divide people up into groups, get out before it’s too late. You deserve better, and so do the people around you.

There’s nothing that says personal responsibility better than piloting your life in a direction that’s not going to hurt yourself or those around you.

Emperor Penguin.

Charlie Hebdo, famous french magazine known for its contentious covers, has recently added Texas to its rancorous register. Their bitterness and world-weariness seeps through the humor on every cover they produce; making clear that they are tired of fringe groups of insane people running the asylum. I, for one, fully agree.

Their most recent cover comes on the heels of one of the worst-but most well-managed disasters to hit the United States: Hurricane Harvey. It sounds like a name for a small rodent, a pet that keeps getting loose and up to shenanigans. In reality, however, Harvey has dumped nearly twenty five trillion gallons onto Texas.

That’s 25,000,000,000,000.

Horseshoe Falls, the biggest waterfall in Niagara falls, would have to constantly dump onto Texas for nine months to equal twenty five trillion gallons, according to an article from the New York Times.

So, Charlie says all the Nazis have been drowned.

I agree.

With all of the focus by the media on race relations in our country over the past few years, with all of the furor(fuhrer?) over the Nazis in Charlottesville, one would think that this country does not allow for mixing or interaction between races at all. It has truly become exaggerated to that point, not helped by BLM, who has actually segregated blacks and whites on some college campuses.

How infuriated they must be at not being able to paint such a picture in Texas, where race has all but been erased in the face of humanity. Men and women of all race and religion have come together to form one group dedicated to helping everyone affected.

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When the flood waters have receded, and people return to their ruined homes to begin the process of rebuilding their lives, I hope they remember the spirit they felt during the disaster, when one man was the same as another, when everyone was simply American.

Alien invasion isn’t the only chance for unity.