Deconstructing Men in 2017.

The Current State

It’s 2017, and men do not look like they used to. There is no strength, there is no honor, and there is a complete lack of style and substance. Don’t get me wrong, I don’t believe it has completely gone away, but it has become an endangered species, the Real Man. It wasn’t a quick and noticeable decline either, rather, it was slow and innocuous. Single motherhood, the fight against merit-based systems, and various forms of affirmative action have removed any reason for men to improve themselves. The meta now is to fit oneself into an under-represented group and use that to an advantage.

The Good Ole Days

People look back wistfully at the 1950s, wishing they could they could go back to a time when things seemed safer, when whole families were the norm, when people dressed up just to go out to the store, and when decency was in fashion. Never do I hear, “I sure wish we could go back to the time when black people were second class citizens”, or “I sure would like to be able to beat my wife without anyone saying anything about it”. These were not the values of the 1950s, as much as the left would have you believe they were. A man who sexually assaulted a woman was as much a scumbag then as he would be now. Then, however, he would be attacked. Now, the entire gender is attacked. Collectivist ideals have taken precedence over individual actions.

Identity Politics As A Norm

Never before has a person’s identity being so determined by what he is born as. LeBron James is a legendary basketball player. He is an ingenious tactician, with the energy of a hundred normal men. He is a father, and an example to all young boys as to what a man can be. To the left, however, he is merely a black man, a tool to further a collectivist cause. The left, who calls everyone else out as racist for any transgression, real or implied, is oddly interested in black men only being black men. It’s the same with white and hispanic men as well. Some groups even suggest that everyone is born gay and genderless, and that society forces people into their gender roles. These groups used to be outliers, ignored or outright quashed by force. The internet, and subsequent immersion in echo chambers has emboldened and enlarged these groups. Their implied relevance causes uninvolved people to ally with them, “cause-jacking” to gain the benefits of a group without being a member.

That’s not what this article is about, though. These points are made to provide insight into the leftist mindset for clarity. Leftists believe strongly in identity. They are strongly against merit-based reward systems. A simple google search reveals countless arguments against “meritocracy”, and those same authors, with very little effort, can be found talking trash about “cisgendered white men”, and how “black people are magic”, while they themselves are likely part of the group they are decrying.

The Point

Modern men, in an effort to appeal to groups they have no place in, diminish themselves. Effort that could be spent on improvement of self and community is instead used to pander and placate and become more like a given group. This goes beyond mere action. Their bodies change, becoming less masculine and more feminine. The lack of testosterone affects the way they think and speak. Every male that works for BuzzFeed recently took a testosterone test together. The conclusion was predictable.

Males raised by single mothers are statistically less likely to succeed in any merit-based capacity, multiple studies show. That is because a man feminized is not a man.

Justin Trudeau, Canadian Prime Minister and outspoken feminist, recently shamed his sons publicly in a personal piece he wrote for Marie Claire magazine, while also making it clear that he feels male society has it out for his daughter.

I am so exceptionally proud of my daughter Ella-Grace. I love Ella, and I worry–because as a father, son, husband, and citizen, I witness the unequal obstacles women and girls face every day. It’s 2017, yet in Canada and around the world, women and girls still face violence, discrimination, stereotypes that limit them, and unequal opportunities … It is maddening to me that my brilliant, compassionate daughter will grow up in a word where, despite everything she is as a person, there will still be people who won’t take her voice seriously, who will write her off–simply because of her gender.

All of us benefit when women and girls have the same opportunities as men and boys–and it’s on all of us to make that a reality. Our sons have the power and responsibility to change our culture of sexism, and I want Xavier and Hadrien–when he’s a little older–to understand that deeply. I want my sons to escape the pressure to be a particular kind of masculine that is so damaging to men and to the people around them. I want them to be comfortable being feminists.

This pseudo man, a leader of an entire country, is willing to sell his own family out to pander to identity politics. Women already have the same opportunities as men. Lazy people, however, don’t have the same opportunities as hard-working people, and that’s why those who follow identity politics hate meritocracy. Any group that is helped by affirmative action, whether it be based on race or gender, is relying on their identity, and not their work, to keep them gainfully employed.

Men need Work

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No man does well when there is not a real adversary to fight. Whether that be a bear in the woods, or imminent starvation, or a project at work, a man needs to overcome adversity to remain stable. Modern men, with their Quixotal(see: windmills) adversaries never achieve true victory and rightly so, are not well. Every puff piece written by a male in HuffPo, New York Post, BuzzFeed and Vox, as well as many other publications, are rife with imagined monsters and insane rambling.

A lack of sunlight and exertion has rendered these house cats neutered.

These piteous males often find themselves in open relationships, the caveat being that it’s only open for the woman. They raise the children of other men, conceived during their own marriage, and count themselves as lucky to get to be in the presence of such a “strong independent woman”. To call a woman “yours” is considered a taboo and will have you labeled a misogynist.

The Solution?

Raise your children, both boys and girls, without an ideology. Ensure that they know how to think critically and can separate fact from fiction. Teach them useful skills. Seeing racism in milk or misogyny in clothing is not a skill. changing parts on a car or balancing a checkbook is a skill. This author’s daughter has been able to change brakes on a car since she was three. She is the least likely candidate for feminism or identity politics.

Children raised without a father are the most at risk. Be a father to your boys, men, and if you’re a woman, get a father for your boys. Independent women create weak men.

Lastly, let boys be boys. Trying to force them to avoid their own gender markers ensures that they will end up weak, duplicitous, and unfit to raise the next generation of children.

Gender roles and Other Fluff.

It is evident during this disaster of hurricane Harvey and other disasters like it, that gender roles, as much as some people dislike them, are necessary. A picture is going around the Internet right now of a man carrying a woman who is carrying a baby. That is what gender roles are. The man protects the woman and the woman protects the child.

Modern leftists desperately want to erase those roles by telling men that they are dispensable, that they are useless, that they are merely sperm donors; some feminists even go as far as to suggest that men be killed wholesale, with a few kept for breeding purposes. Women, however, need to work and be empowered and be part of the military, etc. Women who stay at home, raising children and providing a stable environment are castigated and treated as enemies to the cause. Children, biologically unable to take care of themselves and make proper decisions, are being tasked with ideas and decisions that shouldn’t concern them for years.

Not Just The Men.

If you’ll notice, The popular leftist groups Antifa and BLM are full of men who are not doing their job. They are full of men who are disenfranchised and emasculated, and they’ve been fed the idea that the system exists solely to keep them down. Thus, they do not have jobs. Getting a job would mean the system wins. Instead they use their time wisely with protesting, closing down areas of universities, and intimidating anyone who disagrees with them.

The men of Antifa have been emasculated by the third wave feminists that they have allied with for years now. They are the classic White Knight. For them, women are on a pedestal. They don’t believe in the establishment, but more than that, they don’t believe in themselves. Terms like “Cis-male” are used as derogatory terms to let them know that by being born with a penis and still identifying with having one as an adult, then they are part of the problem. This is patently untrue, but adolescent boys are taught these things during their teen years via social media. Anyone who stands up to a woman is an enemy.

Their inability to reconcile what they’ve been taught to what they intrinsically are creates a state of cognitive dissonance. In this state, one falls into depression, and is easily manipulated. Their impotent rage is given a focus, and they respond with violence and frustration.

Men are not supposed to be feminists. At best, a man is a distant feminist ally; not taking up the mantle of feminism or buying the T-shirt. A man is simply there to protect the women and children who cannot protect themselves from the men and women who would seek to harm them.

Men are supposed to build and maintain society. Antifa has shown that it only exists to dismantle, disrupt and destroy. Berkeley is a prime example of their propensity for violence and destruction

But The Women.

The women who make up the modern feminist front are brash, vulgar people, unfit for true womanhood. Easily identified by their utter lack of care for their appearance, third-wave feminists are the vanguard for movements like Her Body her Choice, that centers on killing babies at an amazing rate; Healthy At Every Size, which insists that a 400 pound sedentary woman is exactly the same as a Victoria’s Secret model. Antifa member Venus Rosales is an example of third-wave feminism, having no care whatsoever for appearing feminine. Aside from that, she insists on further devaluing herself by acting in fetish porn involving hirsute women. I pity the man she entraps, who finds one of her old videos while trying to relieve himself of his sexual frustration because sleeping with your husband is a big third-wave feminist no-no.

Third-wave feminists are nothing like the feminists who fought for voting rights, and jobs. Those women, who still exist in a quiet minority, treat people around them decently, have good manners, and are educated in something meaningful. Now, they are all permanent adolescents with no plan to grow up. They idolize women like Rihanna and are proud to be called a Bitch. They think gender studies is a viable degree. They will be herding cats in their 40’s.

And The Children, Too.

In recent years, leftists have pushed hard for laws involving children. At first this might sound good, but it is most assuredly not. In Canada, right now, there is a law called the Supporting Children, Youth, and Families Act of 2017. In short, it aims to remove, by force, children from parents who don’t support their chosen gender identity. That means that if a five-year-old boy says, within earshot of anyone, that they are a girl, and the parents don’t immediately bring the child to a psychologist to investigate it further, that the government has the authority to take that child away.

Aside from that, the bill also allows children to be taken away from parents who don’t allow them to believe in the easter bunny or tooth fairy.

Kamala Harris, 32nd Attorney General for California and current Junior Senator for California, wants children to have more say in what happens in the government. This is what the left does. They try to give children the power to change things because they know that rational adults will not accept any of the insane things the left wants.

Word on the street is that Kamala Harris will be running for Prez in 2020. Save the date, folks, it’s gonna be a good show!

They’re Like Animals.

Not all is lost. These fringe groups only account for a thousandth of the population. They, collectively, are a rudderless mass that simply gravitates toward anything that looks controversial, knowing there will be attention. Like a herd of animals moving on to the next food source. Some of them will grow out of it. I did. Some will realize what they’ve done and spend the rest of their life trying to right their wrongs. Some will realize that their need for attention should really be directed at their parents(HINT: This is what happens when you don’t pay attention to your kids), and some will continue to be scumbags because they are narcissists and sociopaths that need weak-minded people to thrive.

I Hate Them.

Not really, though. Just continuing a trope for those willing to read between the lines.

I actually hope that they realize the error of their ways, and choose to warn later generations of the folly of professional protesting. A smart man learns from his mistakes. A wise man learns from the mistakes of others.

Let Millenials be smart. Let Generation Z be wise.

On Beards

Beards.

Apparently, something we can do in our sleep and without effort, contributes to our manliness. It’s become a meme unto itself. Just google beards, and you’ll see endless graphics on why only real men have beards, and how if your man has a beard but doesn’t know what this car part is, then he’s not a man.

I tend to disagree. These days, when I encounter a stranger with a big, bushy lumberjack-esque beard, he’s starting off in the negatives with me. Now, I realize that right away, half of you out there are getting in a huff, and likely untucking your flannel shirt from your skintight jeans to cool off, but hear me out. There were, are, and always will be, men who are not really men. Just as there are women who are not really women.

The term Beta Male gets thrown around a lot. It’s meant to denote a man who is deeply submissive, particularly to women, and gets offended over things that have no effect on him whatsoever. I still believe in the term, despite its growing unpopularity in today’s society. It describes many postmodern third-wave feminist males perfectly.

Feminized beta males have latched on to beards like third-wave feminists have latched on to armpit hair, as a way to passively gain man points. They still act the same, still carry signs that say HER BODY HER CHOICE at an anti-Trump protest, still tell their gross female friends that their period blood omelet is a-okay, and that they’d love to try some but too bad they’re vegan. They wear flannel shirts because lumberjacks are manly. They do Crossfit because kipping looks like real exercise to them.

They hide behind big, fluffy, unkempt beards in the hopes of fooling the people that see them. In the hopes of fooling young “woke” girls into sleeping with them. A guy used to have to learn to play the guitar and break it out at parties and play Wonderwall to get a girl. Now he just grows a beard.

I used to be a massive beta male. I know what one looks like. I know what it feels like in their skin. I know they think they’re legit. I did, back then. I thought my brother was a sexist pig because he sexualized Chantal Kreviazuk instead of embracing her music. I used to put women on a pedestal.

Side note: You can be a good singer, have a true message, and have a nice ass. Not you, though, J-lo. You just have the nice ass.

I grew up. I realized that my childish thoughts weren’t really in line with living a happy productive life. I’ve found that since then, a lot more people find me easy to get along with as well.

I also still have a beard, but it’s well-groomed and defined. It looks better on me than a bare face, and it shows I can take care of myself beyond the basics.

I’m looking forward to the day when beards are once again not just a fashion statement. When I can look at another man and know he grew one because he genuinely likes it rather than what he thinks it says about him.

In closing, I have a daughter who could fix most basic problems on a car like changing tires, brakes, and lights, when she was three. She also ran my jigsaw when I renovated one of our bathrooms. She doesn’t have a beard. She’s six now, and more manly than half the bearded dudes out there.

Maybe the man makes the man, and nothing more.